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So I 23F was thinking about this today in the car. So I was thinking about how compromising on certain standards or preferences I have has lead me to dating men who I eventually became incompatible with or things ended mutually.

I understand you will never met a partner who checks of 100% if your wants and desires, so it makes sense that certain things you will have to compromise on.

That being said, I have a real life example. So, there’s a hobby I go to and there’s a guy there that has been very attentive, makes conversation, notices certain things about my hair/appearance, etc. He’s a very sweet guy, but the only caveat is that he’s on the bigger side. I can see he’s making an effort to lose it. I would like to date and find a boyfriend through my hobbies, but I have some doubts about how much I should compromise on.

I’m not typically attracted to fat/overweight men. I’ve been on that side of the fence before weight wise, but have worked to get it off and maintain it through consistent physical activity and making smart choices with my diet.

For background, I did make an exception one time and dated a bigger guy since he met literally all the other qualities I desired. Things ended for other reasons (racist family/not standing up for me), but he had drastically different eating habits from me and it showed. Months later I see him on social media and he lost a lot of the weight.

So my question is, how do you draw the line between compromising on or sticking to certain standards? Would it be wrong of me to pursue something with someone who is bigger just because they have a good personality and I see potential?